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When I first started looking for ways to improve my social life, I wanted quick fixes. I wanted to have the techniques that enabled me to walk into a room, talk to anyone, have them love me for my wit and humour, and then I’d be the life of the party. I wanted charm, and I wanted to be the most interesting guy anyone can ever know.

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When I was 19, I got to know this girl from one of my classes. We didn’t talk much at first, but one day, we went for a group lunch, and our interaction went amazingly well. It was one of those rare moments when you just click with someone without knowing why. Soon, we were hanging out almost everyday. We couldn’t stop talking to each other; there was an endless run of topics. Over time, I developed feelings for her. But I asked myself why a great girl like her would have feelings for someone like me. I had no money, no looks, and was a boring and dull person. I began to avoid her.

I never stopped liking her though. After about half a year, I decided to talk to her again. We had an honest conversation, and I found out that she was attracted to me then. I tried to chase her back, but it was too late. She was already in a relationship.

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This is Part 2 and the conclusion of Start blaming yourself!.

I remember how I was as a child. I was skinny (still am), short, and had asthma. My height didn’t experience a spurt in growth until I was about 16 years old, and at 15, I noticed that my nose seemed to be becoming bigger. Great. More ugliness for me.

It would have helped if I had people around to reassure me that being skinny was fine, that it played no part in my personality, that I was normal. But alas, my classmates would constantly ask me, “Why are you so skinny?” Every year, as I changed classes and became acquainted with new people, I always faced the same questions. On a subtext note, it was as good as saying, “Why aren’t you normal like us?”

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“It’s not you. It’s me.”

I am sure many of you have heard this line somewhere before. Our focus today is on the opposite.

Many of us go through life blaming others. We blame our bosses for pissing us off, our spouses for getting us into an emotional state, or even strangers for giving us unnecessary trouble. Well, guess what? It’s not them. It’s you.

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