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This interaction is Part 2 of 2. Read Part 1 if you haven’t done so.

Monday came around. I originally didn’t have plans to meet up with Tiffany. She was at work until 4pm, and I was supposed to have an appointment. We had chatted over the weekend while she was at work, and there were suggestions from both of us that a date was inevitable. That morning, she shared more about herself with me. But it was her contribution to our conversation, the vibe, the implications in her words, and everything else that told me she was more than ready to meet me.

This is where I must mention something which I feel is very important. A girl will not build a deep emotional connection with a guy without meeting him in person. It’s not just for security, but also that females are big on body language. Body language and subtle communications will say everything about a person. The words are merely an add-on, and if both are not congruent with each other, the guy will give off a weird vibe. We may have gained a certain level of rapport, but the deeper connection is still not built yet.

By 1pm, my client hadn’t gotten back to me, and my late noon was freed up. I suggested that I might be able to meet her after she got off work, and confirmed that at 3pm.

The date.

When we met up, the first thing I felt was her shyness. I also noticed that she was nervous. When she mentioned that I looked taller in my pictures, I knew that she had a different person in mind. These didn’t mean anything to me though, since I already knew how to overcome them. I brought over to a spot where we could talk, and away from the main crowd. My first thought was to get her comfortable, so I held back myself from touching her. I am a touchy person by nature, but as with any situation, there has to be calibration.

We talked about a wide range of topics. The flirting was kept on the backburner, and after a while, when I felt that she was more comfortable, I began relating to her. We talked about both our goals, dreams and passions. I seeded a possibility of us working together, since I saw her as a potential for joining my business. I talked about my family, and made a reference to hers based on our earlier SMS and MSN conversations. I listened for her personality traits and related her experiences to mine. I could see that she was warming up after about two hours. I watched for her subtle signals, and felt that if I wanted to, I could kiss her, which we did so later for a brief moment. But there was a placid vibe throughout the entire interaction, in which I felt something was missing.

The next day, I noted that she did not send me any morning SMSes, and she was contributing less to the conversation as compared to before. The flirting was gone as well. Instead, we talked like platonic friends. I got her out again on Wednesday to listen to my business plans. I knew the sexual vibe from before was missing, but I also felt that it was because she was not ready, so I took things easy. We continued chatting on MSN, and also talked to each other on the phone. In fact, it was the phone conversations that things built up again.

I built more rapport by talking about my history, what I was like as a kid, why I am doing the things I do, and even my pet hamster. More importantly (and this is what I felt opened her up again), I saw her for who she is. I told her I saw that she was afraid, and that she was looking for someone to help her move from one comfort zone to another. That was on Thursday afternoon, and on Friday morning, she sent me a morning SMS and we started our flirting again. Unfortunately, due to privacy reasons, I shall not carry on the story from here. You, my dear reader, will have to use your own imagination

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